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When should parents seek professional help for a teenager?

Signs it is time

  • Low mood, irritability or worry that lasts more than two weeks.
  • Withdrawing from friends, family or activities they enjoyed.
  • Big changes in sleep, eating or weight.
  • Refusing or struggling to go to school.
  • Self-harm, or talk of hopelessness, death or not wanting to be here.
  • Using alcohol or drugs to cope.

Who to contact first

  • Your family doctor or paediatrician, who can assess and refer.
  • The school counsellor or pastoral team, who may already have noticed changes.
  • In an emergency, emergency services.

Talking to your teenager about getting help

Say what you've noticed and why you care, without blame. Present help as normal and practical, like seeing a doctor for a physical problem. Involve them in choices where you can, and keep reassuring them that asking for help is a strength.

Trust yourself

You don't need to be certain before asking for advice. If something feels wrong, it is reasonable to check.

For parents

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Two live 2-hour online sessions (4 hours total, €79.00 EUR) that help parents recognise early signs and practise the conversations that keep teenagers talking.

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