My teenager says "I'm fine" - what should I do?
Why teenagers say "I'm fine"
It can mean they don't have the words yet, don't want to worry you, fear a big reaction or simply want privacy. None of these mean they don't need you.
What you can say instead of asking again
- "OK. I'm around later if you change your mind."
- "You seem a bit tired lately. Nothing to explain, I just noticed."
- "If it ever isn't fine, you can tell me and I won't freak out."
When to look closer
Watch for changes that last and spread: withdrawing from friends, losing interest in things they loved, changes in eating or sleep, falling grades, or comments like "what's the point?". If you see these, have a calm conversation and consider talking to their school or doctor.
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